Appearance on Radio Bristol

From 30th March to 2nd April 2017 there will be a festival called Life, Death (and the Rest) at Arnos Vale Cemetery in Bristol, UK.  As part of this I will be hosting a Death Cafe on Saturday, 1st April 2017 at 2pm and I will be around all day on Sunday 2nd April 2017 to talk about the work of death doulas and associated agendas.  In support of the festival I was invited on to Radio Bristol alongside a representative from Arnos Vale.  I was happy to talk about the role of Death Cafes as well as giving some examples of the work I’ve done as a death doula. If you’d like to listen to this you will find it at 24 minutes in until 45 minutes on this podcast.

Doing publicity, newsletters, visits, managing correspondence and, yes, writing a blog are all part of what I do to promote the agenda of talking about death and dying.  Sometimes it feels like a lot of work for a small impact but I’d like to think that this movement striving to remove the taboo around death is slowly building momentum and it is all these small contributions made around the country by all the “death activists” (not really comfortable with that term) that add up to change. I’d like to think that in 10 years time we will all have an Advanced Directive outlining what we want when we are in our final days tucked away in our private papers and our loved ones will know exactly what we want when the time comes. And we wont be able to understand why there was a time when this wasn’t the case.


I love bloggers!

To help build my knowledge and understanding I’ve been following a number of blogs including one by the wonderful Jules who is caring for her dying partner.  I am constantly amazed by the insight that bloggers give us into their lives, their experiences and their hearts.  I’d like to think that the appreciation is mutual.  In exchange for their openness and sharing we can offer support, understanding and information in return.

Each client I have worked with has offered a unique set of circumstances that are so different from each other.  A life-limiting illness doesn’t mean everyone is the same.  I can’t meet everyone so reading is a great way of gaining more understanding.  Blogs offer many different themes.  Some want to educate, some want to blurt out their deepest fears and some are just musing to avoid dealing with more immediate and frightening thoughts.  Personally, I blog because I want to connect with other people caring for those at the end of their lives and if I can offer some helpful information along the way then that’s great too.